RENEW 52 ยท A TOGETHER TOOL
Big feelings are easier
when nobody paddles alone.
RAFT is something you and your kid(s) build together โ one small step at a time โ when a moment gets too big to think straight.
Kid(s) โ say it out loud
Parent โ guide it gently
The Four Planks
R
Recognize
Recognize an event is occurring.
A
Accept
Accept the situation.
F
Focus
Focus on the controllable.
T
Transform
Transform negative emotion into positive emotion.
Build a RAFT together
Sit side by side. Pick a moment that's been hard lately. Take turns โ kid(s) talk first, parent helps put words to it.
Two paddles,
one raft.
RAFT is a way to get through hard moments as a team โ so it's the two of you against the problem, not against each other.
You
Your Partner
The Four Planks
R
Recognize
Recognize an event is occurring.
A
Accept
Accept the situation.
F
Focus
Focus on the controllable.
T
Transform
Transform negative emotion into positive emotion.
Build a RAFT together
Sit down together. Pick a moment that's been tense lately. Each of you answers for yourself first, then talk your way to where you land together.
โฒ Blessings, Todd
